Dysfunctional Parent Modes

Punitive Parent

The critical voice that puts us down, berates us, and tells us we are worthless, unloveable or a failure. It is based on previous experiences of being criticised, abused, bullied or neglected. We hear it so often that it feels true even when there is evidence to the contrary. 

Demanding Parent

The voice in our head that is pushing us to do better, try harder, be perfect and never fail. It has a whip and a megaphone and it can be relentless in flogging us.