Social anxiety is no picnic. When you’re socially anxious, the party is a monster. It feels like they are judging you and making you small and inferior. It feels like any interaction will probably degenerate into mortal embarrassment. That will confirm your feeling of inferiority and while you bleed shame your blood imbues disgust. No picnic.
The only real solution is exposure therapy.
Exposure therapy doesn’t make you less afraid, it makes you more courageous. Deliberately and voluntarily attacking the challenge taps into our primordial predator stance. We need to do that repeatedly and frequently to become courageous.
That’s not simply going to the party and hiding, although that’s where you might need to start. Competency might entail going, having an agenda, executing that agenda and then leaving. If you do that, You’ve turned the party from being your predator to being your prey.
- Dr Al