Schema Coping Modes: FLIGHT
Detached Protector Mode
This FLIGHT mode allows for avoidance of feelings by psychologically detaching to reduce emotional overwhelm.
Avoidant Protector Mode
This FLIGHT mode allows for avoidance of feelings by avoiding situations or relationships where there is a risk of feeling distressed or anxious.
Angry Protector Mode
This FLIGHT mode uses a wall of anger to push people away to avoid people getting close. It can also look like silent hostility, stonewalling or sulking.
Detached Self-Soother Mode
This FLIGHT mode avoids feeling vulnerability by using 'stuff' to take the feelings away, such as alcohol, pills, food, shopping or sex. These behaviours are often engaged in mindlessly, leading to overuse and regrettable actions.
Complaining Protector
This FLIGHT mode avoids feeling vulnerability by pushing blame on to other people. In this video, we discuss the difference between complaining and venting and how you need to use radical responsibility to engage your Healthy Adult.
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